A long term relationship is always going to have its moments of light and shade, good and bad. That is human nature, for better or for worse（不管怎样） - heck it is even included in the marriage vows. If you find that your relationship is limping along a little bit, then there are many things that you can do to give it a boost. Here are 3 ways to restore a relationship and get it back on track.
There are so many things that you can try to improve your relationship and you should not stop at 3, in fact don't stop - keep working on improving your relationship for evermore. How long it will take to improve your relationship depends on the damage that has been done and how long it has been neglected, but you can make a lot of progress very quickly.
If you really want to get your relationship on track, then harping on
The first thing to do is to ensure that you are spending plenty of high quality time together. Get away together if you can and if you cannot, then make sure that you are trying new things together and forming new and happy memories. Get the spark and the love back in any way that you can.
Another idea is to write a list of things that you love
The next thing to do is to make your partner feel really special. Find ways to let them know that you love them, even if you are feeling a little begrudging of it at first. Make them breakfast in bed, give them a massage, send them a nice text message throughout the day, give them unexpected compliments（恭维，道贺） or anything else nice and loving that you can think of.
If you want to make your relationship better and get over the hump making accusations, withdrawing from your partner, or trying to be the victim, the martyr or "right" is not going to help. Try out the above 3 ways to restore your relationship and get on the road to recovery.
相关单词：vows
vows解释：誓言( vow的名词复数 )； 郑重宣布，许愿
vows例句：
Matrimonial vows are to show the faithfulness of the new couple. 婚誓体现了新婚夫妇对婚姻的忠诚。
The nun took strait vows. 那位修女立下严格的誓愿。
相关单词：harping
harping解释：n.反复述说
harping例句：
Don't keep harping on like that. 别那样唠叨个没完。
You're always harping on the samestring. 你总是老调重弹。
相关单词：counselor
counselor解释：n.顾问，法律顾问
counselor例句：
The counselor gave us some disinterested advice.顾问给了我们一些无私的忠告。
Chinese commercial counselor's office in foreign countries.中国驻国外商务参赞处。
相关单词：begrudging
begrudging解释：嫉妒( begrudge的现在分词 )； 勉强做； 不乐意地付出； 吝惜
begrudging例句：
相关单词：massage
massage解释：n.按摩，揉；vt.按摩，揉，美化，奉承，篡改数据
massage例句：
He is really quite skilled in doing massage.他的按摩技术确实不错。
Massage helps relieve the tension in one's muscles.按摩可使僵硬的肌肉松弛。
相关单词：accusations
accusations解释：n.指责( accusation的名词复数 )；指控；控告；（被告发、控告的）罪名
accusations例句：
There were accusations of plagiarism. 曾有过关于剽窃的指控。
He remained unruffled by their accusations. 对于他们的指控他处之泰然。
相关单词：martyr
martyr解释：n.烈士，殉难者；vt.杀害，折磨，牺牲
martyr例句：
The martyr laid down his life for the cause of national independence.这位烈士是为了民族独立的事业而献身的。
The newspaper carried the martyr's photo
