四种标志判断他是否就是真爱

That feeling you have whenever you think about your boyfriend or when he walks in the door? You think it means you have found "The One." How exactly can you tell if you're right?

每当想起男友或者当他走进房门的时候，你可能会有特别的感觉，不过这意味着你找到了Mr.right？对此你又有多少把握呢？

More importantly, how can you tell that the two of you really are a good match? Here are four of the signs to tell if the guy you're with now should be the guy you're with forever.

Looks - It seems totally superficial, but there is going to be a time when you have to be honest: do you find this guy attractive? Can you see yourself living with him for the rest of your life? If you were just tolerating him while you were dating, you may want to get serious about what you really want before you take the next step. When it comes down to things that he can change -- if this guy is not meeting your standards of personal hygiene（卫生）, healthy weight, decent dress -- you may want to have a conversation with him about your concerns before you decide it's time for a commitment.

Shared Beliefs - It's more than just your religious backgrounds. Do the two of you have the same ideas about life, how to live, financial goals and philosophies, and feelings about humanity. If your guy has beliefs that you just can't get behind, there's a serious problem with your relationship. It may be okay now, but eventually you won't be able to feel comfortable living with someone who doesn't share the same basic outlook on life as you. There's always a chance that you could change, but that's a big risk to take. If the two of you do share all of the same ideas about the world, go for it!

Emotional Maturity - Not everyone is on the same level of emotional maturity. The interpersonal skills that you have that help you deal with getting hurt or feeling happy are developed from childhood: both you and your boyfriend have emotional intelligences that probably aren't going to change at this point. If you fight a lot it could mean one or both of you are not very emotionally mature. If it bothers you that he is not empathic, feeling, able to compromise, or control his temper you need to think twice before you decide you want to spend a lifetime with someone who is emotionally stunted.

Intelligence - This is going to be different for everyone, depending on how judgmental you are. Sometimes women date dumb guys and can still be perfectly happy. Sometimes they can't stand how stupid he is. Let's even consider that he might be the one with the brains in the relationship. If the difference between your SAT scores is something that makes either of you unhappy, then it's probably not a good idea to move forward with him. If the two of you are happy with who you are, whether you can go toe-to-toe on Sunday crossword, or if you have to remind him of his family member's names, you may have found the one.

相关单词：hygiene

hygiene解释：n.健康法，卫生学 （a.hygienic）

hygiene例句：

Their course of study includes elementary hygiene and medical theory.他们的课程包括基础卫生学和医疗知识。

He's going to give us a lecture on public hygiene.他要给我们作关于公共卫生方面的报告。

相关单词：maturity

maturity解释：n.成熟；完成；(支票、债券等)到期

maturity例句：

These plants ought to reach maturity after five years.这些植物五年后就该长成了。

This is the period at which the body attains maturity.这是身体发育成熟的时期。

相关单词：stunted

stunted解释：adj.矮小的；发育迟缓的

stunted例句：

the stunted lives of children deprived of education 未受教育的孩子所过的局限生活

But the landed oligarchy had stunted the country's democratic development for generations. 但是好几代以来土地寡头的统治阻碍了这个国家民主的发展。

相关单词：perfectly

perfectly解释：adv.完美地，无可非议地，彻底地

perfectly例句：

The witnesses were each perfectly certain of what they said.证人们个个对自己所说的话十分肯定。

Everything that we're doing is all perfectly above board.我们做的每件事情都是光明正大的。

相关单词：crossword

crossword解释：n.纵横字谜，纵横填字游戏

crossword例句：

He shows a great interest in crossword puzzles.他对填字游戏表现出很大兴趣。

Don't chuck yesterday's paper out.I still haven't done the crossword.别扔了昨天的报纸，我还没做字谜游戏呢。